I think communication is so important with kiddos so I was thrilled when I found out about this book. The funny thing is I found out about this book from my mom. That is funny because as much as I love my parents and as great as I think they were as parents we did NOT talk about things. I think it was just their generation but we talked "reactively." I got caught drinking, so we talked about not drinking. I got caught dating a boy who was too old, so we talked about not dating older boys. You get the picture. So imagine my shock when I found out she was making my 16 year old niece read this book. I picked it up one day when I was over there and thought it had real potential but at the time Haley was only about 11 so I decided it would wait.
This past school year I started the book with her. I would read a chapter and then she would read the chapter and then went to lunch or to get coffee or ice cream and discuss. I love the fact that this has started so much dialogue. I told my husband one day that one thing that this book has done for me is made me realize how grounded and down to earth our daughter is and that I feel bad that he isn't getting this same experience (let's face it a 13 year old girl doesn't want to talk about dating and sex with her dad.)
And the book is.......The 6 Most Important Decisions You'll Ever Make by Sean Covey. If you recognize the name "Covey" his dad Stephen Covey wrote the book The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People and Sean wrote the spin off, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Teens.
So what are the 6 decisions?
- Your attitude towards school
- How you choose your friends
- Your relationship with your parents
- Dating and sex
- Self worth
The way the book is written I think it is a very easy and entertaining read. He doesn't pull any punches there is some pretty graphic information about STDs and drug side effects. It definitely has a Christian slant but it isn't at all preachy. There are several areas in the book that allow the teen to do some planning and make notes.
I hope if you have a pre-teen son or daughter you'll consider having them read this book and talking about it with them. I think it has been a great experience for us and it has opened the door to discussions that would may have never happened. I will be buying another copy for Liv when she is a little older.